languagepotato wrote:if people can snap at me for opening the door, i can snap at people for asking me to help them carry stuff.
And then I get to call you hysterical retard? Okay.
And I would be the one looking less tactful in that situation, in my opinion.
Btw, you use the word "can", and I wonder if that reveals another difference between us in how we think about this. You seem to be after some kind of black or white rules which unambiguously puts one party in the wrong, and makes them deserve the harshest of chiding. Wheras I see a complicated situation that's doesn't clearly cast either party in the wrong or in the right. I mean, of course people "get to" react in a wide spectrum of ways. There aren't really any laws against it. So yes, you "can" be rude as well if you choose to. Personally, I'm not talking about what people get to do or not, but how it makes them look. A person having a rude outburst that may have understandable causes makes them look less bad than a person who is having a rude outburst for example to get back at people. People ranting about the hysterics and retardedness of women who lash out at perceived sexism just don't score very high on tact or awareness in my book. But yes, you "get to" do that, of course.