It was very interesting to read the whole sub-topic about Russia and points of view about relations with Russia.
I pretty much share the opinion of some certain people here.
I could add a lot of thoughts, but I rather don't, just describe some things.
Russian disappearing from ex-Soviet states:
Bilingual Russians in Estonia - who are a minority within Russians, and are kind of integrating to modern-day Estonian society - even in the smaller town I was living in, found each others' company, set to different tables at university occasions, parties, etc. And all the words you could here from them were Russian. Estonians said, they have no problems with each other, only that on a longer scale, ethnic Russians make friends with other ethnic Russians and Estonians with Estonians. Even though they live in peace next to each other.
THey watch Russian television, Russian newspapers, and of course it is an advantage in customer service to speak not only Estonian but Russian as well, as you can make good service to a larger part of society, so Russian language is preferred.
As for Latvia, I have a friend who is not able to attend some university classes in her native language, Latvian, because there is no ethnic Latvian who is expert of that subject. While it is not a problem with Russian as there are plenty of Russian speakers.
As for superiority vs co-operation,
It has always been totally natural to me that we (Hungarians) can only make our living here if we co-operate with our neighbours. We haven't got a seaside, no significant natural resources. We have to be on good terms with our neighbours to maintain good trade-routes and trade-relations; take care of our natural waters, as 80% of it comes from abroad, like Danube and Tisza too. When there was the accident in the gold-mine in Romania it was really a pain for us for example: All fish extincted from our second-biggest river, Tisza. Imagine if we committed such mistakes in our territory, all the conatmination would go along to other neighbours's rivers which is mutually very uncomfortable. We must take care of each other.
Russia is not a neighbour any more. My parents's generation is more critical towards Russians in general, as they were surrounded by Russian-speaking soldiers and tanks during their every-day life, and politics from Moscow controlled our internal affairs until the mid 1980's and forced something that the majority didn't want.
While my generation is more mild in this. It is considered rather "cool" to find relations with Russians and have a common party with them or just meeting some Russian tourists. Though, most stories from Hungarians I have heard with Russians is like: they had the most awesome party with them, or the kindest people ever, but when it was about more serious topics, the opinion of these otherwise kind people, were scary. Not democratical. Not tolerant. At least compared to our standards in Hungary. I have never considered Hungary a Western democracy, but when I hear these, I realize we actually are closer to it, than how I imagined.
My generation is critical to the politics of Russia mostly, only and we like to distance ourselves from them, even though we like a lot of things about Rusia otherwise. But we don't have that fear others ( from countries bordering Russia) tell about, and Russia's politics seems a little further-away problem indeed having big Ukraine in between us, so we rather notice or think about the merrier and positive aspects of our relations with Russia, like their tourists, Russian culture, wonderful landscapes and our language-relatives there, etc... and also the common "small/simple-people attitude" we share, that we both like partying without any fancyness, just drinking 40% beverages, or have good and funny memories with the rude but very strong Russian machinary products, etc...