Woods wrote:I am looking for a very affectionate and strong word, that you can say to someone you feel very warm feelings about, which would make them feel very good.
Naava wrote:I've got a feeling we tend to show how we feel with actions more than with words, and if we use words, it tends to be like "read between the lines"* rather than directly saying "I like you" or "I love you" etc.
Naava wrote:Could you give an example of a context where you'd like to say something nice to her?
Naava wrote:Do you want to tell her she's been a good friend or do you wish it'd become something more?
Naava wrote:Of course some people are more straightforward than others, and it's possible people have different norms in different parts of Finland.
Woods wrote:But still, what words could you use if you wanted to say it or write it?
Woods wrote:I want to tell her that she's super dear to me and I really like her.
Naava wrote:I doubt I'd use any one word in your situation. I know there are some people who call their friends with affectionate words, but these tend to be female-female -frienships, and even then it depends on you and your friend's personality (and maybe age).
Naava wrote:"Oot tosi tärkeä mulle" (... i)s also strong and affectionate because it is like saying "I need you in my life", and it should make her happy to hear that's how you feel about her.
Woods wrote:I'm not going to get into details about my relationship with her cause this a linguistics forum and not a dating one.
Woods wrote:Okay, could you just name a few of these words and say what they mean / what feeling they bring? I would then think about them and maybe use one of them. In any case it will be good to know them.
Like I want to start my message with something like Muru, ...
but "muru" is inappropriate, cause she's not my girlfriend, and I also don't think it shows what I want to express.
Naava wrote:I'm not interested in your personal life. I only needed to know how close you are and what you're trying to do before I could imagine what kind of words could be used.
Naava wrote:Finns don't really use strong affectionate words with people they're not super close to. :? (...) I can't come up with any word that wouldn't sound corny and/or put you directly into red flag category. Sorry about that; let's hope someone else can recall a word that would suite your purposes.
Naava wrote:In any case, the most common ones are kulta and rakas.
Naava wrote:It's sweet of you to wish to use Finnish
Woods wrote:It seems that since Finns are not usually saying such words, there aren't that many of them.
Woods wrote:The language doesn't change much per se - it's more about things people are used to hearing or not.
Woods wrote:He also said he prefers "kultaseni" to just "kulta". What is the "se" in this construction? But I think the "ni" only adds closeness and makes it less appropriate.
Linguaphile wrote:"Kultaseni" is the suffixed form of "kultanen" (not of "kulta"). So, "se" is not an independent part, just part of the genitive stem of "kultanen".
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