azhong wrote:I actually have had a question in mind about the author since I read Linguaphile's introduction: will the author be discriminated against in his diplomatic career because he is a coming-out gay person, coming out with such a big step that he even publishes a book to announce he seeks a surrogate mother abroad, a behavior still illegal in Spain?
I'll answer your question below, but before that, just a side note: as I understand it, the reason it is illegal to pay a surrogate mother to carry a child for them in Spain has nothing to do with the fact that they are a gay couple, but rather to do with ethical issues related to things like paying a woman to carry someone else's baby, potential health risks to the surrogate, etc. (It's a very complex issue and in the United States, it is legal in some states and illegal in others.) So the fact that it is illegal in Spain is not a sign of anti-gay sentiment or discrimination, but it does affect the gay community more, because it is the only way that a male same-sex couple can have a baby that is genetically (biologically) their own.
It is not illegal for people from Spain to travel to other countries for it, as the author did. In other words, they didn't sneak off to find a surrogate mother secretly - others have done it the same way and it's accepted. The laws in Spain only forbid women in Spain from being the surrogate mothers.
azhong wrote:I guess the diplomatic circle is more conservative than, for example, the entertainment industry; diplomatic personnel represent their country. Does the author just not care about being marginalized because he is not ambitious in his career? Or can the Spanish people already accept a gay diplomat as just as normal as accepting a non-gay diplomat? Can that be really true so far?
If I've understood you, I think you are asking whether his career is limited by the fact that he is gay? No, it is not. My impression is that because (just as you said) diplomatic personnel represent their country, the Spanish government considers it good to have diplomats who are as diverse as the general population (or at least has no problems with it). There are same-sex couples in Spain, so there are also same-sex couples among Spain's diplomats. Same-sex marriage is legal in Spain. It seems like a non-issue that doesn't limit his opportunities career-wise. But he wrote very little about this in this book (which I've finished now), and I can't remember specifically what he may have said about it in his first book. If he has encountered much discrimination, he hasn't written about it in these books.
There are a few problems that arise that could be considered a form of discrimination. He cannot take the same maternity leave to be with his daughter that a biological mother would take, instead taking a shorter paternity leave; this is because the laws for mothers (who have health issues of their own related to pregnancy) are different from the laws for fathers. His newborn daughter can't be covered by his own medical insurance when she born until (if I remember correctly) several months after her birth because it takes that much time to add her to his insurance policy; that's an issue that a biological mother wouldn't have. (And add to this the fact that there are three countries involved, for the insurance to deal with: they are Spanish citizens, but they live in Venezuela, and the baby is born in the United States.)
So there are issues like the question of maternity leave and the question of health insurance, arising from policies that were written with only non-surrogate biological parents in mind. I don't think it is deliberate discrimination, just policies that haven't adapted to new situations. (This type of surrogate parenting wasn't even biologically possible until the 1980's, and same-sex marriage wasn't legal in Spain until 2005, so policies that are based on anything older than that aren't going to take this type of situation into account - it wouldn't have even been imagined. The current policies are probably newer than that, but probably based on older policies, without anyone thinking at the time about changing them.) Policies like that could be changed, and probably will be someday, but haven't been yet. One of the benefits of writing a book like this is to bring awareness to issues like those. I certainly wouldn't have even thought of those issues myself, before reading the book, not from any lack of acceptance but simply from never having had any exposure to the situation and therefore never having known enough about the policies to have any clue how they would affect people in unequal ways.
I've finished the book now. It's funny, your questions caused me to look things up online that I hadn't investigated while I was reading the book, so even though I've finished the book, I'm still learning more about it!