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dEhiN wrote:
Actually speaking of racism, let me illustrate my point with an example. Based on what linguoboy and Lauren are arguing, it would be ok for me to write "I can't stand white people and I'm doing my best to avoid them" on here. Further, if then someone who is white were to take offense to that, or argue in any way that I couldn't write that, I could say "well I'm brown and you're white, and you don't know what it's like to face racism but I do, so it's completely acceptable for me to say that".
And to me, that isn't acceptable!
linguoboy wrote:kevin wrote:It's more the expectation of being shouted down if I express in some way that I'm not happy about that.
Funny thing: people often say I'm "shouting" when I'm just talking at normal volume. Interesting how subjective these things are, isn't it?
Here's another funny thing: As I say above, I wasn't happy with how Lauren expressed herself either. It struck me as an unduly harsh and negative thing to say. It bothered me enough that I complained to my husband about it over dinner that night (inbetween complaints about my stupid cold and an annoyingly busy workday). And then we started talking about what we were doing this weekend. Because that's how little impact a remark like that has on my life in the absence of a general background of societal cis-phobia to reinforce it.
I had briefly considered responding in the thread, but I just couldn't see any benefit to it. She tends to stick to her guns and there was the potential there for things to get really unpleasant. And then I took a moment to think about some of the bullshit the transgender people I know go through on a daily basis and I really couldn't see any point in challenging one on account of a passing remark. It wasn't like she was looking to start something; vijayjohn asked her a question and she answered based on where she was at the time. Plus, as I said, I have my own issues with cis men and it wouldn't be uncharacteristic of me to say something like that on a day they were really getting me down. (Goddess knows I make sweeping complaints about gay men generally often enough.)
I'm not saying that just because this was the way I decided to handle it that this is how Vlürch and dEhiN should've handled it, too. (Although I don't see anything preventing them from doing that.) They are completely entitled to their own reactions and to express those reactions publicly. Had they done only that, I would've passed over their posts without responding as well. But they didn't stop there. They had to go further, into the realm of nonsense slippery slope arguments about a careless vent being tantamount to randomly executing people and eye-rolling false equivalences about how trans women expressing dislike of cis men is exactly as bad as the reverse, despite the fact that we live in a world where cis men unprovokedly attack and kill trans women by the hundreds whereas I have never ever heard of a single verified occurrence of the reverse.
linguoboy wrote:Incidentally, I don't perceive this space as a welcoming or a safe one and that has nothing to do with the sentiments expressed by particular members and everything to do with how power is exercised within it.
linguoboy wrote:Aurinĭa wrote:linguoboy wrote:I find it really hard to comprehend how the presence of one lone person ranting against cis men in this forum can have the effect of making this an "unsafe space"
Because one person's ranting can be all that's needed to make you feel very unwelcome indeed.
We want this forum to be a welcoming space for everyone, not only for those who might have a harder time being welcomed in society at large.
A "welcoming space" and a "safe space" are not the same thing, although they have some aspects in common.
vijayjohn wrote:Aurinĭa wrote:Because one person's ranting can be all that's needed to make you feel very unwelcome indeed.
We want this forum to be a welcoming space for everyone, not only for those who might have a harder time being welcomed in society at large.
But that isn't really possible anyway, is it? People can and do feel unwelcome for all sorts of reasons that aren't necessarily under our control. I have seen all of the following happen on this forum:► Show Spoiler
So who do you want this to be a welcoming space for, exactly? Surely it's obvious that you can't please everyone. You really have no choice but to take some sort of clear stand on who you will and will not accept beyond just "we will not accept spammers or people who we think consistently break the rules."
Lauren wrote:Actually speaking of racism, let me illustrate my point with an example. Based on what linguoboy and Lauren are arguing, it would be ok for me to write "I can't stand white people and I'm doing my best to avoid them" on here. Further, if then someone who is white were to take offense to that, or argue in any way that I couldn't write that, I could say "well I'm brown and you're white, and you don't know what it's like to face rascim but I do, so it's completely acceptable for me to say that".
And to me, that isn't acceptable!
I wouldn't blame you one bit if you said that, to be honest. I know you're a person of color, and I definitely know quite a bit about racism. As much as an angry white trans woman can know. If you ranted and said you hate white people and have nothing to do with them, I'd understand one hundred percent, because that's exactly the same thing as what I said. People of color have a fuckton of reasons to be mad at and even hate white people. I would completely understand them being sick and tired of racist people. I wouldn't be surprised if there are people of color that wasn't nothing to do with white people, racist or not, and I support them (well, condone, I guess). They have the right to be angry.
So, let me sum up what I did, from my point of view:
1) I was really fucking angry because of really disgusting misogyny and vented about it, saying I hate all men and want nothing to do with them.
2) After I calmed down I don't actually feel that way. I was really fucking angry, and for good reason. There's no way in hell I'll ever just sit idly by and be happy with what misogynists do. I don't actually hate every single cis man though, I was just really frustrated. Sometimes I just get worked up because anger at misogyny. And mental illness.
I've had a friend of color say that they hated white people because they were pissed off at institutionalized racism. Obviously they didn't direct that at me and I understood where they were coming from and didn't take it personally. If they did actually hate all white people I would understand that too.
Aurinĭa wrote:linguoboy wrote:Incidentally, I don't perceive this space as a welcoming or a safe one and that has nothing to do with the sentiments expressed by particular members and everything to do with how power is exercised within it.
I'm not sure how to interpret this. What exactly do you mean? That we use (abuse) the power we've been given to do as we see fit? My own partner, who was then a member of admin team, left UniLang because he was made to feel unwelcome and unsafe; do you really think I wouldn't have permabanned the people responsible for that if I felt fine exercising power as I see fit, instead of adhering to the forum policy, trying to be as fair as possible? Years ago, we drew up a forum policy and a ban policy, to avoid arbitrary decisions, and to make the decision-making process as fair as possible. We published these policies, so that all members can see them and know how this forum is moderated. If there is anything you or any other member would like to see changed, or would like to be clarified more, there is a whole subforum for information, input and questions. We may not always react (immediately), but your post/suggestion/... will be read and discussed.
Aurinĭa wrote:I'm not going to say anything about people who feel unwelcome because of bans or ban-worthy offenses, because that means they didn't follow the forum rules, so they have themselves to thank for not feeling welcome.
Lauren wrote:Alls I'm gonna say is:
2) It's funny how cis men are trying to tell me, a trans woman, who is frequently the target of both transphobia and misogyny, that I should be nicer to cis men, who are privileged as fuck and never targets of transmisogyny. Check your privilege, please.
Dr. House wrote:Who says that only minorities can be opressed or discriminated against?
Could you give me a few examples of transphobia?
And how exactly is more okay to say :"I hate cis men!", than "I hate trans women?". Is it more okay to be called a white piece of shit by a black person, than being called a black piece of shit by a white person. It's the same hate stemming from one's fear. I can't tell the difference.
vijayjohn wrote:Dr. House wrote:Who says that only minorities can be opressed or discriminated against?
Somebody unfamiliar with the European occupation of countries all over the world, I suppose.
vijayjohn wrote:Dr. House wrote:Who says that only minorities can be opressed or discriminated against?
Somebody unfamiliar with the European occupation of countries all over the world, I suppose.
vijayjohn wrote:Dr. House wrote:Could you give me a few examples of transphobia?
I think you'll find plenty right here.
vijayjohn wrote:Dr. House wrote:And how exactly is more okay to say :"I hate cis men!", than "I hate trans women?". Is it more okay to be called a white piece of shit by a black person, than being called a black piece of shit by a white person. It's the same hate stemming from one's fear. I can't tell the difference.
Because we live in societies where there are measures in place to protect cis men and white people, but not so many to protect trans women or black people. In fact, we have so few such measures that black people are disproportionately targeted by the police in this country and (as you can tell from the Wikipedia article I just linked to) trans people are consistently shot or stabbed multiple times, which surely would not happen if there really were effective measures to protect them.
dEhiN wrote:Don't you mean somebody familiar with ...? Dr. House is arguing that those in the majority can be opressed or discriminated against too. If you're familiar with (Western) European colonization, then you would probably think that only minorities can be opressed/discriminated against.
He may have meant specifically for examples of Lauren being the recipient of transphobia here on UL. I could be wrong, but I'm sure he can think of general examples of transphobia or look up general examples himself.
Your answer doesn't counter his point Vijay. All your answer says is that in today's societies, discrimination tends to mostly happen in one or a few directions. But his point (and mine earlier) is that in principle, discrimination can happen to anyone, anywhere.
Meera wrote:vijayjohn wrote:Dr. House wrote:Who says that only minorities can be opressed or discriminated against?
Somebody unfamiliar with the European occupation of countries all over the world, I suppose.
I think discrimnation can happen anywhere and to anyone. For example when I hear other Muslims in the United States call people of other relegions kaffir or "don't trust him/her because they are kaffir," that is still discrimnation even though Muslims are a minority here. I'm sure there are other examples like this in other cultures but this is one that I see a lot and it really bothers me.
Dr. House wrote:Is it more okay to be called a white piece of shit by a black person, than being called a black piece of shit by a white person. It's the same hate stemming from one's fear. I can't tell the difference.
linguoboy wrote:Dr. House wrote:Is it more okay to be called a white piece of shit by a black person, than being called a black piece of shit by a white person. It's the same hate stemming from one's fear. I can't tell the difference.
I can. For White people, I think it is primarily "hate stemming from fear" which prompts this sort of reaction. But for Black people, at least in this country, it's more often motivated by anger at what White people have done to them.
dEhiN wrote:Fear and also I'm sure institutionalized racist attitudes that white skin means superiority.
Lauren wrote:Maybe, just maybe, if I'm lucky, someone will read this and finally understand what I've been trying to say. I really hope so.
http://everydayfeminism.com/2015/12/ton ... privilege/
johnklepac wrote:2. Advising them on their activism strategies.
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